McMillan wrote "How He Loves" following the death of his best friend, Stephen Coffey.[1] Coffey was a youth minister for MorningStar Ministries. On November 1, 2002, during a church prayer meeting, Coffey prayed out loud "I'd give my life today if it would shake the youth of the nation";[2] the same night, he was in a multi-car accident and died of serious injuries.[3]
Meanwhile, McMillan was recording in a studio in Jacksonville, Florida when he received a call that two of his friends had been critically injured in a car accident. Later that evening, he received another call from his father who informed McMillan that Coffey had died.[4] The next day, McMillan wrote "How He Loves" as a tribute to Coffey and out of a need "to have some sort of conversation with God" where he could speak to his frustrations and emotions over his best friend's death.[5]
According to McMillan, the love that he sings about in "How He Loves" is not a pretty, "Hollywood hot-pink" love. It is a kind of love that is willing to love even when things are difficult and messy. He says, "This song isn't a celebration of weakness and anger. It's a celebration of a God who would want to hang with us through those things, who would want to be a part of our lives through those things, and, despite who we are, He would want to be a part of us, our community, and our family."[6]
Christian rock band David Crowder Band recorded How He Loves for their ninth studio album, Church Music. It was released as the album's lead single in 2009. For the band's version, Crowder received permission from McMillan to change the lyrics from "sloppy wet kiss" to "unforeseen kiss".[7] DCB's cover helped propel the already popular song to greater rotation on Christian radio, peaking at No. 8 on the BillboardChristian Songs chart in 2009.[8]
"How He Loves" was also by the compilation album WOW Hits 2010 with the radio version.
Awards
In 2010, this version of the song was nominated for a Dove Award for Rock/Contemporary Recorded Song of the Year at the 41st GMA Dove Awards.[9]